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The Call to Queenhood
There comes a message to every young woman...There is no booming cannon and blazing bonfires
to tell that another queen has come to her throne; but nevertheless, such a message goes forth from One higher in authority
than any messenger of church or state. It comes not simply to one favored young person in a century, who lives in a palace,
but to every young woman who will hear comes this command from God: "Be a queen. Take your place on your throne. Assume the
scepter; clothe yourself in royal ermine. A crown will at last be placed on your brow." As the Princess Victoria was asleep
when the message first came to her that she was henceforth Queen of England, so I fear many are asleep to great privilege
and opportunity; and I pray God that this book may have some power to arouse them to a sense of their high calling. As soon
as the princess heard she was a queen, she could sleep no longer. If I could only show you, young women, your worth and dignity,
you would lay aside everything that was unworthy, and would assume the queenly honors that are rightly yours.
Of course
you know what I mean. Your queenly honors are not bestowed by the powers and ceremonies of a court; they are not inconsistent
with washing dishes in the kitchen, or sweeping in the parlor, or tying little Johnnie's shoes, or running on an errand for
the tired mother, or hunting up a dressing-gown and slippers for father. In short, the throne to which I would be the messenger
to call you is the home.
In England, but one supreme monarch can rule at the same time. Not till the old king drew
his last breath could Victoria assume her new honors; but, though there are ten millions of queens in America, there is room
for ten millions more. Though in the home where you live some gracious queen has reigned long and benignantly, you will not
crowd her off by taking your seat on the same throne. There is a chance for every royal character in this kingdom of home.
You will not accuse me of narrowness of view, I am sure, or of hostility to woman's highest rights, when I say that, after
all, your supreme place of influence is in the home. First cultivate yourself as a human being. Recognize your rights, remember
the vastness of your influence, train yourselves for the highest places; this has been the burden of my desire for you; an
yet, while I hold to all this, and abate not a jot, I also believe that your throne is in the home, that there alone you may
exercise your highest powers, your queenliest influence. The realm of authorship is open to you, to the lecture platform you
may aspire, the highest places in almost al the profession are no longer walled away from the ambitious woman, yet it is no
less true now than when Sarah made Abraham's tent a true home for him, or Rebecca came from Padan Aram on camel-back to make
Isaac's home happy, that the home is woman's throne.
Queen's Scepter - Love
The queen, as a symbol of her power, on occasions of state bears a scepter in her hand. There
is a right royal scepter, too, which I would put into your hand – the scepter of love. There is none other so potent.
The Queen of England's scepter is made of silver gilt, or at the best, of pure gold; your scepter is one which pure gold is
only a symbol. The queen lays hers aside on ordinary occasions, and it is locked up in the jewel-room for strangers to gape
at behind the bars which guard it; your scepter need never be laid aside, for it is not a simply jeweled symbol of power,
but it is power itself – the power of love.
"What is love?" says one; "a weak, gushing, effusive quality, that
makes the weakness of women?" Nay, love is rest; it is warmth, comfort, nourishment, strength, home; it is life; it is the
omnipotence of God. As the head has no life till the heart quickens it, so wisdom is not wise until love informs it.
Love, let us remember, is more than a sentiment. Here is where the fatal mistake is most often made
in domestic life. The sentiment and poetry of love is all very well in its place. I would not decry it or undervalue it, but
I say that it is altogether worthless if it cannot stand the test of the wear and tear of every day.
Queen's Clothing & Kingdom
The queen's robe on state occasions is made of or trimmed with ermine, which is regarded as emblematic
of purity. Let a character of spotless purity and holiness clothe you as with a garment as you wield the scepter of love on
the throne of home...
...As it is the queen's prerogative to wear the ermine, so it is yours to be clothed with these
Christian graces – humility, modesty, purity; they will make any face and figure attractive and lovable, and as you
go through life, thought you may apparently attract very little attention, yet all true men and women, as they see you, will
say to themselves in their inmost hearts, "There is a queen, and she is clothed in right royal apparel."
Again, make
your kingdom as wide as possible. Queen Victoria does not rule over one little island alone. Canada, Australia, Indian,
and much of Africa acknowledge her sway.
The influences of a good home can never be confined within four walls. If
you are a true queen, however humble you may account yourself, a thousand unconscious subjects will be blessed by your rule.
The Queen of England has never seen one in a thousand of her people, but there is not one of them all who is not better and
happier because a pure, noble woman sits upon the throne. You can selfishly use the best blessings that God ever conferred
upon men, and you can use your home, even, for your own selfish gratification, making of it a social and exclusive club for
two or three or half a dozen, and never thinking of the wide realm which it is your duty to bless. It is necessary to
have a central tie somewhere, to be sure; to have a throne somewhere; some one home form which these good influences emanate;
but it is no more possible for the true queen of a home to keep altogether within her own four walls than it is for the sun
to shine all to itself, without disturbing the light and warmth to half a score of distant planets.
Queen's Crowning Glory
You can be as selfish with the comforts of your home as the veriest miser counting the gold.
At the bar of God you will have to account for this talent – the art of homemaking – and for making the sweet
radiance of that home shine furthest in this naughty world.
We have talked about woman's throne, her scepter, her ermine,
her wide kingdom – I need hardly remind you that there is a crown for her, too. It does not visibly sparkle upon her
brow, it cannot be weighed in a jeweler's scales, but it is not less real than Queen Victoria's, because less tangible than
hers.
To every one of you, with your rare and blessed opportunities to brighten and sweeten and gladden the world through
the homes of which God has made you queens, to every one of you come the solemn words of the Son of God: "Be thou faithful
unto death, and I will give thee a crown of life." "Hold that fast that thou hast, that no many take thou crown."
There is no cheap and easy process for turning out queenly characters, as clothes-pins are made by the
gross. The loving friend, the helpful daughter, the patient sister, the good-natured, peace-loving schoolgirl, makes the queenly
home-maker, and such a one, whether married or single, always finds her throne.
"The earth waits for her queen." God
calls for queenly characters. Answer this demand; humanity needs you, young women. Respond to this call, for you can do much
to prove to the world that –
"There are two heavens, "Both made of love – one inconceivable Even by the other, so divine
it is; The other far on this side of the stars, By men called Home."
~from Looking Out on Life: a Book for
Girls on Practical Subjects Based on Many Letters From Wise Mothers (Boston: D. Lothrop, c1892) by Francis Edward
Clark

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A community is not likely to be overthrown where woman fulfills her mission, for by the power
of her noble heart of others, she will raise it from its ruins, and restore it again to prosperity and joy.
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Woman's Beautiful Sphere of Influence
One of the most hallowed, lovely, and beautiful sights in our world is, a woman at home discharging
in all the meekness of wisdom, the various duties of wife and mother, with an order that nothing is allowed to disturb;
a patience which nothing can exhaust; an affection which is never ruffled; and a perseverance that no difficulties can interrupt,
nor any disappointments arrest—in short, such a scene as that described by the writer of the most exquisite chapter
of the Proverbs. Eve in Paradise, in all her untainted loveliness, by the side of Adam, propping the lily, training the vine,
or directing the growth of the rose; shedding upon him, and receiving, reflected back from his noble countenance upon her
happy spirit, such smiles as told in silent language, their perfect and mutual bliss, was no doubt, a brighter image of perfect
virtue and undisturbed felicity; but to me, a woman in our fallen world, guiding in piety, intelligence, and all matronly
and motherly excellences, the circle of a home made happy chiefly by her influence, presents a scene little inferior in beauty,
and far superior as a display of virtue and intelligence, to that of which our first mother was the center even in her original
perfections. And it is imagination, and not reason and moral taste, that can revel in the mind's pictures of Eve in Paradise,
and not feel warmer admiration in the actual presence of such a woman as I have described.
But it will, perhaps, be
asked, whether I would shut up every married woman within the domestic circle, and, with the jealousy and authority of an
oriental despot, confine her to her own home; or whether I would condemn and degrade her to mere household drudgery. I have,
I think, protected myself already from this imputation, by representing her as the companion, counselor, and comforter of
man. She shall, with my consent, never sink from the side of man, to be trampled under his feet. She shall not have one ray
of her glory extinguished, nor be deprived of a single honor that belongs to her sex; but to be the instructress of her children,
the companion of her husband, and the queen partner of the domestic state, is no degradation—and she only is degraded
who thinks so!
Christianity has provided a place for woman for which she is fitted, and in which she shines; but take her
out of that place, and her luster pales and sheds a feeble and sickly ray! Or to change the metaphor, woman is a plant,
which in its own greenhouse seclusion will put forth all its brilliant colors and all its sweet perfume; but remove it from
the protection of its own floral home into the common garden and open field, where hardier flowers will grow and thrive—its
beauty fades and its fragrance is diminished. Neither reason nor Christianity invites woman to the professor's chair, or conducts
her to the lawyer's bar, or makes her welcome to the pulpit, or admits her to the place of the magistracy. Both exclude her,
not indeed by positive and specific commands, but by general principles and spirit, alike from the violence and evil of the
military, the debates of the senate, and the pleadings of the forum. And they bid her beware how she lays aside the delicacy
of her sex, and listens to any doctrines which claim new rights for her, and becomes the dupe of those who have put themselves
forward as her advocates only to gain notoriety, or perhaps unneeded income.
The Bible gives her her place of majesty and dignity in the domestic circle—the heart of her husband
and the heart of her family. It is the female supremacy of that domain, where love, tenderness, refinement, thought and tender
feeling preside. "It is the privilege of making her husband happy and honored, and her sons and daughters the ornaments of
human society. It is the sphere of piety, prudence, diligence, in the domestic station, and a holy and devout life. It
is the sphere that was occupied by Hannah, the mother of Samuel; by Elizabeth, the mother of John; by Eunice, the mother of
Timothy; and by Mary, the mother of Jesus. It is the respect and esteem of mankind."
It is, as Dr. Spring has said,
that silent, unobserved, unobtrusive influence, by which she accomplishes more for her race, than many whose names occupy
a broad space on the page of history. A woman who fills well the sphere assigned to her, as a wife and mother; who trains
up good citizens for the state, and good fathers and mothers of other families which are to spring from her own; and so from
generation to generation in all but endless succession, need not complain that her sphere of action and her power of influence
are too limited for female ambition to aspire to. The mothers of the wise and the good are the benefactresses of the human
race.
What would be gained to woman's comfort, respectability, or usefulness, or to the welfare of society, and
how much would be lost to each, by withdrawing her from her own appropriate sphere, and introducing her to that for which
she has no adaptation? Who, but a few wild visionaries, and rash speculatists, and mistaken advocates of 'woman's rights',
would take her from the home of her husband, of her children, and of her own heart—to wear out her strength, consume
her time, and destroy her feminine excellence—in committee-rooms, on platforms, in mechanics shop, or philosophical
institutions?
But may not woman, in every way in her power—benefit society by her talents and her influence? Certainly,
in every legitimate way. Her sphere is clearly assigned to her by God—and only by very special and obvious calls should
she be induced to leave it. Whatever breaks down the modest reserve, the domestic virtues, the persuasive gentleness, of woman,
is an injury done to the community. Woman can be spared from the lecturer's chair, the platform of general convocation,
and the scene of public business; but she cannot be spared from the hearth of her husband, and the circle of her children!
Substitutes can be found for her in the one, but not in the other. In the bosom of domestic privacy she fulfils with truest
dignity and faithfulness the first and highest obligations of her sex.
~from FEMALE PIETY, written in 1852 by John Angell James (1785-1859) Click here to purchase
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Unnamed Heroines
Life itself is a battle, and no grander army has ever been set in motion since the world began than that which
for more than two centuries and a half has been moving across our continent from the Atlantic to the Pacific, fighting its
way through countless hardships and dangers, bearing the banner of civilization, and building a new republic in the wilderness.
In
this army woman has been too often the unnamed heroine.
Let us not forget her now. Her patience, her courage, her fortitude,
her tact, her presence of mind in trying hours; these are the shining virtues which we have to record. Woman as a pioneer
standing beside her rougher, stronger companion—man; first on the voyage across a stormy ocean, from England to America;
then at Plymouth, and Jamestown, and all the settlements first planted by Europeans on our Coast; then through the trackless
wilderness, onward across the continent, till every river has been forded, and every chain of mountains has been scaled, the
Peaceful Ocean has been reached, and fifty thousand cities, towns, and hamlets all over the land have been formed from those
aggregations of household life where woman's work has been wrought out to its fullness. Among all the characteristics
of woman there is none more marked than the self-devotion which she displays in what she believes is a righteous cause, or
where for her loved ones she sacrifices herself. In India we see her wrapped in flames and burned to ashes with the corpse
of her husband. Under the Moslem her highest condition is a life-long incarceration. She patiently places her shoulders under the
burden which the aboriginal lord of the American forest lays upon them. Calmly and in silence she submits to the onerous duties
imposed upon her by social and religious laws. Throughout the whole heathen world she remained, in the words of an elegant
French writer, "anonymous, indifferent to herself, and leaving no trace of her passage upon earth."
The benign spirit
of Christianity has lifted woman from the position she held under other religious systems and elevated her to a higher sphere.
She is brought forward as a teacher; she displays a martyr's courage in the presence of pestilence, or ascends the deck of
the mission-ship to take her part in "perils among the heathen." She endures the hardships and faces the dangers of colonial
life with a new sense of her responsibility as a wife and mother. In all these capacities, whether teaching, ministering to
the sick, or carrying the Gospel to the heathen, she shows the same self-devotion as in "the brave days of old;" it is this
quality which peculiarly fits her to be the pioneer's companion in the new world, and by her works in that capacity she must
be judged.
If all true greatness should be estimated by the good it performs, it is peculiarly desirable that woman's
claims to distinction should thus be estimated and awarded. In America her presence has been acknowledged, and her aid faithfully
rendered from the beginning. In the era of colonial life; in the cruel wars with the aborigines; in the struggle of the Revolution;
in the western march of the army of exploration and settlement, a grateful people must now recognize her services.
Home Educator
In the log-cabin there is perhaps but a single room: there is a bed, a table, blocks of wood for chairs, and
a few wretched cooking utensils. Thank God! The life of the pioneer woman is not "cribbed and confined" to this hovel. The
forest, the prairie, the mountain-side are free to her as the vital air, and the canopy of heaven is her familiar covering.
A life out doors is a necessary part of both the moral and the physical education of her children. Riding through one of the
prairies of the far West, some years since, we arrived just at dusk in front of a cabin where a mother was sitting with her
four young children and teaching them lessons from the great book of nature. She had shown them the sun as it set in glory,
and told them of its rising and of its going down; of the clouds and of the winds, and how God made the grass and trees, and
the stars, which came trooping out before their eyes. She taught them, she said, little as yet from books. She had but a Bible,
a catechism, an almanac. The Bible was the only Reader in her little school. Already she had whispered in their ears the story
of Jesus' life and death, and charged their infant memories with the wise and beautiful teachings of the Sermon on the Mount.
What a practical training was that which children had in that outdoor knowledge which had been useful to their mother! The
chemistry of common life learned from the processes wrought out by the air and sunshine; astronomy from the great luminaries
which are the clocks of the wilderness, and the science of the weather from the phenomena of the sky. There was no "cramming"
in that home-school; each item of knowledge was well absorbed and assimilated, for the mother's toils made the intervals long
between the lessons.
So much the better for the young heart and mind, which grows, swells, and gathers force unlaced and unfettered
by scholastic pedantry* and repression...
*unimaginative presentation or show of knowledge
...It is a faculty of the female mind to penetrate with singular facility into the true
character of the young. Every intelligent mother quickly, and by intuition, discerns the native bent of her child and measures
his endowments. Evidences of latent talent in any particular direction are scrutinized with maternal shrewdness, and encouraged
by applause and caresses. The lonelier the cabin, the more secluded the settlement, the sharper seem to grow the mother's
eyes, and the more profound this intuitive faculty. It is the mother who first discerns the native bent and endowments of
her child, and she too is the quickest to encourage and draw them out. How many eminent and useful men whose childhood was
passed in the outlying settlements have been able to trace their success to a mother's insight into their capabilities...
...A French traveler in the course of his wanderings through, the western wilds of our country, came to a
single cabin in one of the remotest and most inaccessible of our mountain territories. The only inmates in that lonely home
were a middle-aged woman and four girls, ranging from eight to fifteen. The father was a miner, who spent a large part of
the time in digging or "prospecting" for precious ores, as yet with only moderate success. The matron did the work of both
man and woman. The cabin was a museum of household mechanisms and implements. Independent of the clothier, the merchant, and
the grocer, their dress was the furry covering of the mountain beasts; their tea was a decoction of herbs; their sugar was
boiled from the sap of the maple; the necessaries of life were all of their own culture and manufacture. Yet, thanks to the
unwearied toils of the good woman and her little help-meets, there was warmth, comfort, and abundance, for love and labor
were inhabitants of those rocks.
The girls had already been taught all that their mother knew, and she had sent out to fight their own
battle, three sons, strong, brave, and versed in border-lore. "It was my mother," said the matron, "that taught me all that
I know, forty years ago in the forests of Michigan, and I am trying to bring up my girls so that they shall know everything
that their grandmother taught me. They could read, and write, and cypher. They were little farmers, and gardeners, and seamstresses,
and housewives. Nor had their religious and moral training been neglected. The good Book lay well thumbed and dogeared on
the kitchen shelf. The sound of the "church-going bell" had never been heard by those children, but every Sunday the mother
gathered them about her, and they read together from the New Testament. "It is ten years," said the matron, "since I have
seen a church. I remember the last time I visited San Francisco, awaking Sunday morning and hearing the sound of the bell
which called us to meeting. It was sweeter than heavenly music to my ears, and I burst into tears."
What a suggestion
was that, pointing to the unsatisfied craving of that lonely heart for the consolation of the promises uttered by consecrated
lips! Right and fitting it is that woman, God-beloved in old Jerusalem, that she, the last at the cross and the first at the
sepulcher, though far from the Sabbath that smiles upon eastern homes, should keep alive in the hearts of her children the
remembrance of the Saviour and of the Lord's day.
Rove wherever they may, the sons and daughters of the wilderness will find amid the stormiest lives a safe
anchorage in the holy keeping of the Christian Sabbath, and in the word of God, for these are the best and surest legacies
of a pious mother's precepts. A civilization in which the early lispings of childhood are of God and Christ, cannot become
altogether corrupt and degenerate, for woman here is the depository and transmitter of religious faith.
Unconscious Legislator
We have said that woman is the cohesive force which holds society together. This thesis may be proved by facts
which show that power in all those relations in which she stands to the other sex. In cultured circles she shapes and controls
by the charms of beauty and manner. But in the lonely and rude cabin on the border her plastic power is far greater because
her presence and offices are essentials without which development dwindles and progress is palsied. There, if anywhere, should
be the vivified germ of the town and the state. There, if anywhere, should be the embryonic conditions which will ripen one
day into a mighty civil growth. A wife's devotion, the purity of a sister's and a daughter's love, the smiles and tears and
prayers of a mother—these make the sunshine which transforms the waste into a paradise, the wild into a garden, and
expands the home by a law of organic growth into a well ordered community.
The basis of civil law and social order is the silent compact which binds the household into one sweet
purpose of a common interest, a common happiness. Woman is the unconscious legislator of the frontier. The gentle restraints
of the home circle, its calm, its rest, its security form the unwritten code of which the statute book is the written exponent.
The cross is emblazoned on the rude entablature above the hearth-stone of the cabin, and where woman is, there is the holy
rest of the blessed sabbath. She, who is the child's instructor in the truths of revealed religion, is also the father's guide
and mentor in the same ways. Faith and hope in these doctrines as cherished by woman are the sheet anchors of our unknit civilizations.
Rustic Hearts
The young married people, who form a considerable part of the pioneer element in our country, are simple in
their habits, moderate in their aspirations, and hoard a little old-fashioned romance—unconsciously enough—in
the secret nooks of their rustic hearts. They find no fault with their bare loggeries, with a shelter and a handful of furniture,
they have enough." If there is the wherewithal to spread a warm supper for the "old man" when he comes in from work, the young
wife forgets the long, solitary, wordless day and asks no greater happiness than preparing it by the help of such materials
and utensils as would be looked at with utter contempt in the comfortable kitchens of the East.
They have youth, hope,
health, occupation, and amusement, and when you have added "meat, clothes, and fire," what more has England's queen?
We
should, however, remember that there is another large class of women who, for various reasons, have left comfortable homes
in older communities, and risked their happiness and all that they have in enterprises of pioneer life in the far West. What
wonder that they should sadly miss the thousand old familiar means and appliances! Some utensil or implement necessary to
their husbandry is wanting or has been lost or broken, and cannot be replaced. Some comfort or luxury to which she has
been used from childhood is lacking, and cannot be furnished. The multifarious materials upon which household art can employ
itself are reduced to the few absolute essentials. These difficulties are felt more by the woman than the man...
Blooms in the Wilderness
...It is this very dearth of so many things that once made her life easy and comfortable which throws her
back upon her own resources. Here again is woman's strength. Fertile in expedients, apt in device, an artisan to construct
and an artist to embellish, she proceeds to supply what is lacking in her new home. She has a miraculous faculty for creating
much out of little, and for transforming the coarse into the beautiful. Barrels are converted into easy chairs and wash-stands,
spring beds are manufactured with rows of slender, elastic saplings; a box covered with muslin stuffed with hay serves
for a lounge. By the aid of considerable personal exertion, while she adds to the list of useful and necessary articles, she
also enlarges the circle of luxuries. An hour or two of extra work now and then enables her to hoard enough to buy a new looking-glass,
and to make from time to time small additions to the showy part of the household.
After she has transformed the rude cabin into a cozy habitation, she turns her attention
to the outside surroundings. Woodbine and wild cucumber are trailed over the doors and windows; little beds of sweet-williams
and marigolds line the path to the clearing's edge or across the prairie-sward to the well; and an apple or pear tree is put
in here and there. In all these works, either of use or embellishment, if not done by her own hand she is at least the moving
spirit. Thus over the rugged and homely features of her lot she throws something of the magic of that ideal of which the poet
sings:
"Nymph of our soul and brightener of our being She makes the common waters musical— Binds
the rude night-winds in a silver thrall, Bids Hybla's thyme and Tempe's violet dwell Round the green marge of her moon-haunted
cell."
It is the thousand nameless household offices performed by woman that makes the home: it is the home which moulds
the character of the children and makes the husband what he is. Who can deny the vast debt of gratitude due from the present
generation of Americans to these offices of woman in refining and ameliorating the rude tone of frontier life? It may well
be said that the pioneer women of America have made the wilderness bud and blossom like the rose. Under their hands even nature
itself, no longer a wild, wayward mother, turns a more benign face upon her children. A land bright with flowers and bursting
with fruitage testifies to the labors and influence of those who embellish the homestead and make it attractive to their husbands
and children.
~WOMEN ON THE FRONTIER by William Fowler (1878)
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I love peace and quiet, I hate politics and turmoil. We women are not made for governing, and if we are good women,
we must dislike these masculine occupations.
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I am every day more convinced that we women, if we are to be good women, feminine and amiable and domestic, are not fitted
to reign; at least it is contre gré that they drive themselves to the work which it entails.
~ Queen Victoria
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